I want to talk about my experience of moving out and living on my own. Moving out to live on your own is not very common in Hong Kong. Many people still choose to live with their parents even though they have a decent job and they're already at (in) their 30s. Many of them would stay with their parents until they get married. There are several reasons behind – firstly, Hong Kong's rent is expensive. Many people would rather save up more money to purchase an apartment instead of renting one. Secondly, the Chinese traditional value of family is that the parents are the ones who brought you up. When you become an adult, you should also take good care of your parents and you should spend more time to be with them. And of course there are people who are still dependent on their parents for food, clothing, household chores, etc.
When I tell people about the idea of moving out, many people's reaction is like, 'What do your parents say?', because they assume the parents would not like their children to leave them. Well, I don't know if my parents like it, but I can tell you my parents support and respect my decision. They think it is good for me to try and live on my own and then I would know it is the best to stay with my family.
The most important reason for independent living is to save the travelling time to work. It used to take me one hour 15 minutes to travel to work from my previous living place. From my new apartment, it just takes me 30 minutes, so I saved 45 minutes' travelling time. I don't have to get up so early and I save two-third (two-thirds) of my travelling cost. It does not only save my time to travel for work, but also from most of the places in Hong Kong. In addition, I gain my personal space and freedom by independent living. I make my own decision (decisions) all the time, I do not have to say whether I would go home for dinner, I can invite my friends to come up and stay late.
Of course, there are some trade-offs in living on your own. If you want to rent an apartment, there are lots of preparatory works (work) to do. You have to keep visiting the apartments to search for your ideal one. You have to negotiate with the landlord about the price, furniture inclusion, who is responsible for the maintenance of the furniture and equipments (equipment). My experience was that after we moved into the apartment, it was not until the kitchen cupboard was soaked with water that we found out there was water leakage (leak) in the kitchen sink.
Money is the main issue in living on your own. You have to be responsible for all the expenses, for example the rent, electricity, gas, water, telephone, internet bills, etc. Therefore, you've got to be well prepared and save up for your bills. Although I find my transportation time much shorter, the saved time is spent on other things, such as cooking and some other household chores. I think preparing and cooking the food do occupy a significant portion of my time; therefore, I always try to make simple meals. On the other hand, I have to regularly tidy up my apartment and wash my clothes, so it doesn't really save much of my time after all.
Now everything is settled down, I'm getting used to my new life and I am enjoying it. I feel that moving out makes it easier for me to strike a balance between my work, my social life, my study and my family. It may be troublesome, but it may worth (be worth it).
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I love to live with my parent. When i am a child they provide me everything what i needed. I think at older age, every parent need company of their children to share their feelings.
I LOVE MAMA !!!
I would prefer to live with my parents because they need my care as they have cared me in my childhood.
Although money is a crucial factor for me to decide move out or not but i will try my best to handle this situation within the circumstances.They young people who live with their parents don't feel any inconvenience to live with their parents or the affection of their parents compensate their inconvenience but the reason in the vice verca society is that the young ones probably want to minimize the burden of their parents and wanna learn to face the hardships of the life independently, Here the role of the government is very important which provides opportunities for its young nations to plan their future independently.The family tradition also play a vital role in doing so.
This listening activity is a blessing for those who wanna survive with emerging global culture. I am very thankful of the British Council,especially the team which is working for it and designed it.
Azeem Hassan
Pakistan
I prefer living with my parents as it brings happiness to me when I'm with the beloved ones. There's no other place that can be felt as home as my home. A house with warmth, love and happiness makes a home. I hope everybody like to stay at home.
There are many situations when you think about to move out. Among them, money is an essential factor which should be considered. One cannot live at a place if the place is too expensive to be paid by his income.
In the culture in which people tend to live with their parents before or even after getting married, they are tightly bounded by their feelings of security, love and warmth in the family and by their teachings that one should pay back parents' profound gratitude by caring for and helping the old parents. Traditional value affects some extent to this but mainly it depends on whether they have this feeling at home or not.
This listening activity is great. Now, I knew how one try to survive to live on his own.
I rather living with my parents care. Who doesn`t like to be fussed over. However money might be an issue to sort of live you wanna be. Whatever your religion or type family you are in it would be a big jump for life. Going through tough matters in early life can lead you to a high advantage in the future. You will be ready to overcome what come ahead.
I really found this activity useful. I know there might be some mistakes in my comment, but
it`s through mistakes that you may improve your abilities. Thanks a lot!
I prefer living with my parents,because I can look after them.
Here in El Salvador, it is not very usual people move out from their parent's home, except when they are going to get married or something like that...
Like in Asia countries we take care of our old parents and belong to the family until their dead...
i think wich may be nice whether the young person have money enought and get more careful about yourself, your behavior in that condition must be very responsabile....against, can be awful!
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